“Who is she?”
Depending on what you’re looking for, she could be just about anyone around you – probably the woman standing beside you or the one who just walked past.
Here’s a definition that comes to my head almost immediately..
An independent woman is the one that lives by her own rules, likes to make all her life decisions on her own and is extremely particular about the things she wants for herself. She could be a bad-ass feminist or a delicate lass who admires the strength of the opposite sex but can kick ass herself if the need be.
“It is time we all perceive gender on a spectrum, not as two opposing sets of ideals.”
– Emma Watson (in her United Nations speech)
While the definition of independent might vary from person to person, here are six things that every ‘independent’ woman out there will relate to:
1. We are our best company.
Honestly, we really don’t mind spending time alone. In fact, it is something we need occasionally to introspect who we are, what we want, how we want it and most importantly, when. As women, we love to dig into things happening around us to be able to analyse it better and make them go our way.
There are times when we pick spending time all by ourselves over a group outing, just because we need to find that peace of mind we had been reading about through the week. Sometimes, we use that peace of mind to think so much about our future that we end up fearing losing out on personal goals.
2. We commit in totality.
Be it an offhand relationship or a deadline at work, we commit ourselves to it completely which often leads us back to wanting some alone time. This isn’t to say we are emotionally weak or we break under pressure; we just take the break to plan our move and get back to our task in no time – holds true for both personal and professional lives.
Honestly, we aren’t too sucky when it comes being emotional but we know how to give it the importance it deserves.
3. We don’t seek attention.
Let’s just get over this once and for all – we really don’t go all out seeking attention. To be honest, we don’t believe in being the ‘apple of your eye’; we respect social lives outside of relationships and know what ‘giving space’ really means.
No, we don’t expect you to message us through the day or call us every second hour. We know work can keep one busy and that, friends and family come first.
4. We are ambitious.
This one is a sure shot characteristic of an independent woman. The drive to be financially independent in all aspects and accomplishing the self made goals gives us a high that probably even the costliest champagne in the bar can’t. We really don’t mind paying that bill BTW!
We believe in the saying that good things don’t come easy; but the best part of this? We love challenges.
5. We can clear up our own mess.
The urge to be independent might land us in a soup every now and then, but we know how to get out of it as gracefully as we got into it in the first place. Talk about dressing up and showing up no matter what!
Though we don’t like to admit it openly, but we don’t mind occasional help; like the carton we can’t get down because it is too high up in the loft or that huge piece of furniture we just bought and can’t budge on our own.
6. We prefer men over boys.
We prefer class over swag any day. For crying out loud, even SWAG spells out the same thing.
S.W.A.G. = She Wants A Gentleman.
Just how difficult is it to understand? So many boys, very few men. Tch.
To all those gentlemen out there who still believe in holding the door for us, keeping us warm with their coats even though it’s equally cold for you, treating us delicately just to let us know how beautiful we are, we adore you. You are probably the only reason we still believe in chivalry.
“We like our independence as much as you like yours!”