Is nothing but, AWKWARD.
“Growing up is overrated.”
A saying we have all heard innumerable times before, but never believed in until we actually grew up. Sounds a bit complicated? Well, that is what growing up is – complicated.
An adult is basically someone who has developed fully – physically and mentally. In other words, an adult is a person who has attained the age of majority and is therefore regarded as independent, self sufficient and responsible.
If you go by the standards set by our society or the general outlook of the human race, once you complete your graduation and start working, you’re considered an adult. Even though all us 20 – somethings would like to believe we are the new generation responsible adults from the time we turn 18, the truth is that we are all just stuck in an awkward phase. A phase where you’re not a kid anymore, but you’re not exactly an adult either.
None of us are going to own up to this awkwardness because our ego will get hurt or maybe because we don’t like the growing up lectures; which to be honest, might just help us get out of this phase.
I am one of the awkward 20 – something and my awkwardness seems to be oozing out of every nook and corner of the house I currently live in.
Don’t know what I mean? Well here are 8 things you might just relate to:
1. You landed a ‘big job’ that you have no clue about.
Let’s get real here for a minute, how many of you knew the difference between a Technical Associate and an Associate Technical Officer? Or an Editor and a Copywriter?
Yes, we all knew the general definitions right from college time, but none of us really knew what work you were actually supposed to do at each post. We may be the coolest when it comes to throwing jargons at people, but we aren’t all that cool when it comes to explaining things to ourselves.
We often come across as those grown up employees who can take the work pressure of a person with 10 years of experience; but honestly, we are all so tensed up inside that we could probably have a nervous breakdown in flat 10 minutes.
2. Your living independently is costing you a bomb already.
What’s it been, a month since you moved out and started working?
From day one of living alone, you have taken the responsibility of doing up your house just like your mother on your little shoulders. The result being a big hole in the pocket, though what you might see around yourself right now helps you ignore that fact and smile. But the fact is, you got obsessed with home decor and you did overspend.
3. You have a kitchen but what is cooking?
Yes, since you have a pretty little house, you also have a pretty little kitchen that is fitted out as if you’re a top chef.
Honestly, the most cooked dishes prepared in that kitchen of yours are instant noodles and pasta; but sometimes, you do cook. Those sometimes are possible only because your mother/ father is sweet enough to stay on FaceTime (or video call) and walk you through the process. I have prepared a few things and trust me, they were pretty good! But here’s the catch – I hate cooking.
4. You don’t really have ‘work clothes’.
You overspent on household stuff and now realise that all your wardrobe has are ripped jeans, cropped tops, a few baggy t-shirts, dozens of flip flops and absolutely nothing formal.
Lucky me, I work at a place that does not force you to wear proper clothes every damn day. And by proper I mean, formal pants, perfectly steam ironed shirts, etc; though we do dress up pretty decently (I think).
But reality hits you really hard when the need for such clothes arise; for example, a colleagues wedding! The only thing you’re left with is regret. Regret that you did not listen to your mother when she asked you to buy a few things and keep for the ‘just in case’. After regret though, all you can do is drag a colleague along and do some desperate shopping.
5. You just can’t seem to make friends anymore.
Well, you do in the end but they are just a handful of people; probably, lesser than that.
It isn’t because you aren’t friendly enough anymore; it is more so because you are learning how people function, how they demarcate their personal and professional lives. After all, everything around us teaches us something – good or bad, you’re learning!
6. Your new best friends – sleep and wifi.
Trust me, who wants to do anything after a long day at work? Some of you might want to differ and honestly, I differ too sometimes but mostly I like my weekends spent at home.
A big cup of ginger tea, a good book, staying all day in night t-shirts, sleeping whenever you want, eating what you like and watching almost every movie available on Torrents or Popcorn Time – the perfect weekend.
7. You don’t know what to do anymore.
While you were at home, you hated asking for help because, “Hey! I’m a grown up now and I can do this on my own.”
Not sure if you have already reached that phase, but there is going to be a time when you call up your mother for almost everything! From how to remove a stain from your favourite t-shirt to how to organise your cupboard and sometimes even, how to defrost the goddamned fridge!
Panic attack is your favourite time pass. Hah.
8. Your friends (one after the other) are getting engaged/ married.
While you’re still wondering what to do with your degree and which other courses to take, your friends are busy posting updates of their engagement, marriage and in some freak (just uncomfortable) cases, their newborns.
Umm..when exactly did we grow up so much? Awkward.
All I have to say to all my 20 – something awkward people out there is, don’t rush towards growing up; it isn’t as rosy as it seems. Be the baby of your house for as long as you can, there are responsibilities coming your way very soon either ways.
If you’re already in this awkward phase, Enjoy! This awkwardness isn’t going to come back.